About Me

Welcome babe!

My name is Mary Adelle (she/her) and I’m a facilitator, sensual writer, and queer witch. 

 

I am the founder of Creative Sex Ed LLC, a practice with a mission to re/connect queer people and femmes to their sensuality and sexuality, to their artistic confidence, and to daily pleasure practices using creative writing as our modus operandi.

I started my business in June 2018, knowing I wanted to provide creative space for comprehensive and intersectional conversations around sexuality. Since then, my practice has evolved to become exactly what I needed growing up and throughout my 20s: A space for people to re/claim, explore, and celebrate their sensualities, their sexualities, their bodies, their pleasure, and their creative craft through creative writing.

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My practice is anti-oppressive, anti-capitalist, and trauma-informed. My approach is affirmative, creative, and curious. My vibe is joyful and juicy; cute and celebratory; sweet and subversive; vibrant and vivacious; lush and loving. 

I hold an MFA in creative writing and publishing design. I am a certified aromatherapist. I have been coaching and facilitating on sexuality topics for 5+ years, and I have completed over 100 hours of sexuality education certification courses. I've published two books, and edited many more. But most importantly, this work is my calling. Guiding femmes back home within themselves through creative practices after years of navigating self-doubt and shame (internalized from capitalist and patriarchal systems of oppression) is what I’m here to do, and I’m honored.

 

I see your inherent brilliance the moment we connect and begin to work together. I am enchanted by your quirks, your loves, your talents, your history, etc. It’s as if I’m picking up and looking at all these brilliant gems you contain. I’m witnessing these gems in your mind, your personality, your passions, your art, your styles, your abilities, and more. I find your gems in unexpected places, like in a hobby you keep, or in a favorite color, or in a sweet memory you hold.

 

Then I pick up these gems, and I polish them. I rub my sleeves against them. I get them to shine so bright. I find windows to display them in that cause the whole room to glitter with your brilliance. I bring your gems together in ways you never have before. I let some soak in your sunshine, and others glow in your moonlight. I nudge you to really SEE these gems, how wondrous and sparkly they are within you! How they can do so much for your self-delight, your relationships, your dreams, your spirituality, your career, your creative practices...your life.

 

Through my intuitive creative facilitation and affirmative guidance, I lead you to your personal sensual utopia and creative power. I help you re/discover and re/claim the parts of yourself (your gems) that might be buried. I hold space for your healing. And as we discover, re/claim, and heal, we celebrate your joys, hype up your glamour and confidence, and delight in your pleasures. My work is about self-compassion, celebration, and liberation. Internalized misogyny and patriarchy...begone.

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I cannot wait to work with you and witness your abundant gems, babe. 

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My Story

As I grew up, I never remember feeling connected to my body, and I certainly don't remember feeling connected to my sensuality nor sexuality. I DO remember feeling a lot of shame, and a lot of self-doubt, mostly stemming from a strict catholic background. I remember people-pleasing, overthinking, and perfectionism.

 

I also remember feeling different: Constantly dreaming about becoming an artist or a famous writer. Wanting to dress in funky colors and be SEEN. Wanting to explore everything with a creative eye...school projects, hobbies, basic routines. I mostly kept these desires to myself, feeling the shame of being different or odd.

 

My shame and self-doubt collected in my body and formed Vaginismus, or pelvic floor tightness, a condition causing any kind of sexual experience to feel painful and shameful, so I avoided my sexuality and sensuality altogether, grew even more distant from these parts of myself. 

 

Until I was 25 and had a particular experience with a partner that left me feeling broken and hopeless, like I’d never have fulfilling, pleasurable relationships with others but also, like I’d never have a loving, expansive relationship with myself. So, I started to get curious about and attentive toward my sexuality. 

 

I went to therapy and I found a coach. I experimented with pleasure in various forms. I quit dieting and over-exercising. I explored my sexual identity and came out as queer. I got witchy and became a certified aromatherapist, deepening my abilities to tune into the senses.

But the juice was in the writing. I enrolled in a graduate writing program, and out poured sensual poems and sexy stories and evocative collages. The years and years of sexual and sensual repression became fuel for my creativity...and I was thirsty.

 

Sensual, creative writing changed my life. It was an accessible and exciting outlet to grow my confidence and explore my sexuality through story and poem. It gave me my unique voice and style. For the first time, I felt authentic and aligned with myself.

 

And here I am today, 8 years later, guiding fellow creative writers to connect with their sensuality and reclaim and explore their sexuality. 

 

It’s an honor to hold space for my clients to move through their own creative and healing processes. To dismantle internalized shame and self-doubt and embrace their own deep knowing of their inherent creativity, unique sensuality, and magic.

 

A few other facts about me: I live on the Appalachian mountains on unceded Piscataway land. I enjoy being outside amongst sun, trees, and dappled light, sipping coffee or tea. I have an eye for eclectic and funky decor and design. I find astrology interesting and fun to follow. I love the sounds of train whistles. I am drawn to neon lighting. I eat a lot of chocolate-covered pretzels and I drink a lot of seltzer. Velvet is my favorite texture. I rewatch the Veronica Mars series every few years. I live for a good breeze.

 

I cannot wait to learn about you, experience your creativity, and hear about some of your sensual favorites, babe.